Safety Planning for Yourself, Children, and Pets This Holiday Season

December 10, 2024 | Return to REACH Hub
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The holiday season is typically a time of joy, family gatherings, and celebration. However, for survivors of domestic violence, this period can be particularly challenging, often intensifying the stress and trauma of abusive environments.

The season brings an increase in financial strain and family obligations. For many families, the expectation is to spend money on gifts, host gatherings, or travel to see relatives. These financial pressures can heighten tensions in an already volatile household, potentially escalating abusive behavior. Survivors may feel trapped, unable to leave or seek help due to financial dependency or the fear of disrupting family traditions.

Togetherness and family unity are often emphasized, making it even harder for survivors to reach out. The societal and familial pressure to maintain a facade of a happy family can discourage individuals from disclosing their abuse. Survivors might worry about being judged or ostracized by family members who may not believe or support them.

Creating a detailed safety plan can instill a sense of control and preparedness. Below, we offer some tips on creating a safety plan that can protect survivors, children, and pets during the holidays.

Safety Planning for Yourself, Children, and Pets 

• Establish a Safe Space: Identify a room or area in your home where you and your children can retreat if tensions rise. Ensure this space has access to an exit, such as a window or door, that can be used in emergencies.
• Create an Emergency Contact List: Compile a list of trusted friends, family members, and local shelters who can provide support or a temporary place to stay. Make sure your children know how to reach these contacts if needed.
• Prepare an Emergency Bag: Pack a bag with necessities such as clothing, important documents, medications, and small items for comfort for both you and your children. Store it in an easily accessible but discreet location.
• Plan for Pets: If you have pets, include their needs in your safety plan. Some states allow victims to include pets in their restraining orders. Identify pet-friendly shelters or friends who can care for them temporarily. Keep a small supply of pet food and essentials ready. To find a pet-friendly shelter, please visit the directory at Safe Havens for Pets. If you need emergency financial assistance to pay for temporary pet boarding, you can apply for the RedRover relief grant. You can find more pet safety resources on WomensLaw.org.
• Utilize Technology Safely: Be mindful of digital security. Change passwords regularly and ensure location services on devices are only enabled when necessary. Consider using a separate phone for emergencies. Find more tips from NNEDV’s Safety Net Project.
• Seek Support: Reach out to local programs or hotlines dedicated to helping survivors of domestic violence. They can offer guidance, resources, and a listening ear during challenging times. To find help near you, visit the Places that Help page on WomensLaw.org.
• Practice Self-Care: The emotional toll of the holidays can be overwhelming, and finding healthy coping mechanisms can help alleviate that stress. Practice self-care activities such as exercise and meditation. Seeking professional counseling or support groups can also provide a safe space to express feelings and receive guidance.

It’s important to remember that safety planning is personal – what works for one person might not for another. Survivors know best what they need to stay safe. Also, safety planning is a continuous process that may need to be adapted as circumstances change. While the holidays can be challenging, with careful planning and the right support, survivors can navigate this period more safely and with greater peace of mind.