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If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.

For help and assistance call the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.

  • Hotline advocates are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year to provide confidential crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. 
  • Assistance is available in English and Spanish, with access to more than 170 languages through interpreter services.

What To Do If You Think You Are Being Abused

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive and assaultive behaviors that one former or current intimate partner uses against the other.

Who Batters and Why?

People who batter have a need to gain and maintain all of the power and control in the relationship.  People who batter come from all walks of life but have common characteristics:

  • Insecure
  • Emotionally dependent
  • Excessively jealous
  • Manipulative
  • Can be very charming and then suddenly angry and violent.

Abusive partners are frequently described as being like “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde."  Abusive behaviors are chosen to maintain power and control.  Abusers will tell you that you caused the abuse or that you are “crazy."  This is not true.  Nobody likes being abused or is responsible for someone else’s behavior.  It is normal to feel crazy because abuse is a crazy situation.

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