February 8, 2017
Inspired by our “Feminists&Me” tee, the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) continues its “Spotlight on Feminists” series by highlighting and honoring individuals who work to make a difference every day. NNEDV previously honored the women featured in this design: Sojourner Truth & Susan B. Anthony & bell hooks & Gloria Steinem & Ruth Bader Ginsburg.
NNEDV: First, tell us about yourself – who are you and what do you do?
Patricia Medina: I’m Patricia Medina - mother, Air Force veteran, and domestic violence survivor. In my free time I promote community involvement and philanthropy among millennials with my blog Chatty Patty DC and with the many organizations that I partner with. I’m also a domestic violence ambassador.
NNEDV: What are you currently working on related to nonviolence and/or gender equality?
PM: I’m working with an organization called Boys to Bowties and their initiative S.T.O.P (Seek Time Or Pay). The goal is to get young men to take time to think about their actions before they have to pay with their lives. I also promote domestic violence awareness with 10Blessings, 10K survivors. A friend of mine started this initiative, which is designed to support victims of domestic violence to re-build and take back control of their lives. This is a survivor-led mission. Survivors are speaking about their experiences, helping to find shelter for victims, mentoring other victims, and helping them get on their feet. Not only do we raise money, we create classes that encompass trauma-informed approaches and get survivors involved back in their communities. We discuss things that are real in our communities such as healthy relationships, children and teens who have incarcerated parents, and helping single mothers take control over their lives.
NNEDV: What inspired you to do this work? What inspires you to continue it?
PM: I have noticed that many elders of the Black community complain that the youth (i.e., “millennials”) are inactive and do not impact change. I am fully aware of the accomplishments of our generation and I wanted to highlight them. Additionally, I wanted to bring opportunities for involvement to the forefront so that youth would have means to reconnect with the Black community. One of the things that really got me thinking about this was during the Arab Spring - a lot of organization happened around social media, recording events and grassroots efforts. This movement helped to get these important topics out there for the public to be educated. I think it’s important to understand the history of social justice and respect the ways that we have moved forward. We must also understand that the movement of social justice is changing and being relevant to young people means meeting young people where they are – and that’s through social media and technology.
Likewise, just because things are not seen does not mean that things are not happening. There are groups who are doing tremendous work, but often are not being shown in the spotlight. Doing good work doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to be in the spotlight. The media portrays the negative things that happen in the community, but often when good things are happening there is no media presence.
I’m inspired to publicly speak about domestic violence because I used to be ashamed of my experiences. I blamed myself for what I endured. I was conditioned to believe that I caused my own abuse. It wasn’t until I found other women who were fearless and unashamed that I truly realized my strength. I now speak for the little girl in me that was silenced, and for all the women and children who share my experience but are too afraid to let their voices be heard.
NNEDV: Let’s say you woke up this morning and gender-based violence had been completely eradicated. What are you going to do now?
PM: I live at the intersection of being Black and being a woman. It’s hard to feel safe in any space. If I woke up this morning and gender-based violence was completely eradicated, I would focus on racial injustices. Although eliminating gender-based violence would be amazing, I’d still be vulnerable to all of the threats people of color face daily. We cannot do this work without looking at the intersectionality between being a woman and other identities.
NNEDV: If you could sit down over your beverage of choice with any person – living or dead – who would it be and why?
PM: This question is the hardest. If I could sit down with any person of my choice, I think I’d like to sit down with Harriet Tubman. I’d love to hear her recall her memories of the Underground Railroad. I’d want to know how she found the courage to lead others to freedom. I always wondered what challenges she faced while saving others and how she led men, women, and children so courageously.
February 6, 2017
During Black History Month, the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) celebrates strong Black leaders, present and past, and acknowledges how much progress we have made to ensure racial justice. However, this month is also a time for us to reflect on how far we still have to go to ensure safety and equality for all.
February 4, 2017
This Sunday, Super Bowl LI takes place in Houston, Texas. While many will be tuning in to watch the Patriots battle the Falcons for the Lombardi trophy, many others will be watching for the commercials and halftime entertainment. This year, Lady Gaga will be taking center stage during the halftime show – a highly anticipated performance as she has been planning her halftime performance since she was four years old!  The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) will be watching to see if she will include raising awareness about domestic violence and sexual assault during her show.
February 1, 2017
First loves are often exciting and nerve-wracking all at the same time. Whether in middle school, high school, college, or beyond, navigating a romantic relationship for the first time can be challenging and confusing. Are we fighting too much? Are we hanging out too much? Are these feelings normal? It is hard to make these distinctions, especially because all relationships are different. Unfortunately, for too many youth this first glimpse into romantic partnerships is one that includes abuse.
January 19, 2017
Funding to end violence against women is in jeopardy. Today, The Hill reported that the Trump team is considering cutting federal spending, including gutting all funding for the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).
January 12, 2017
I’m dating a girl, and while my family and friends are cool with it, her family is pretty homophobic, and so we’ve had to keep it a secret from them. I’m okay with that, but she gets very clingy and controlling. She wants to know where I am all the time. She tells me that I need to dress a certain way, and once she threw away all my lipsticks because she didn’t like the colors on me. She texts me in the middle of the night, and I feel like I have to respond because she tells me that I’m the only one who loves her and accepts her as she is. She gets really jealous whenever I talk to anyone else, whether they’re a guy or a girl. The other day she secretly went through my phone to check who I was talking to. I kind of want to break up with her, but I’m worried about what she’ll do since she says she’ll kill herself if I ever leave her. What should I do?